Just because it is a cliche and often used as an excuse does not make it untrue. Shelly and Jin both have had severe emotional hurt inflicted on them in their pasts. Shelly strikes out at those who get too close because she fears a repeat of her mother’s abandonment (I speak from experience that even when you know logically your parent did not choose to die, it still feels like you’ve been abandoned and there is a great deal of anger and hurt that you can’t really express.) Now add this to what amounts to supernatural strength and there is a valid fear that you might hurt someone for the simple act of them caring about you.
Now notice that Jin also has pushed all who might get close to her away, exactly like Shelly. We may not know why yet, but the echo is definitely there.
Is it me, or have I heard that excuse from somebody else…
I believe Shelly used it in a conversation with Heather.
it’s simply another version of “it’s not you, it’s me”
Just because it is a cliche and often used as an excuse does not make it untrue. Shelly and Jin both have had severe emotional hurt inflicted on them in their pasts. Shelly strikes out at those who get too close because she fears a repeat of her mother’s abandonment (I speak from experience that even when you know logically your parent did not choose to die, it still feels like you’ve been abandoned and there is a great deal of anger and hurt that you can’t really express.) Now add this to what amounts to supernatural strength and there is a valid fear that you might hurt someone for the simple act of them caring about you.
Now notice that Jin also has pushed all who might get close to her away, exactly like Shelly. We may not know why yet, but the echo is definitely there.