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You can’t do much for us unless you take care of yourself first. And even if you find it hard to write right now, your artwork is still mighty fine.
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This 1000%^
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Anyone who tells you to ‘Just snap out of it’ should be snapped out of existence themselves.
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My thoughts exactly
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i’ll third that..
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Seriously. I dislike that phrase. It’s so unrealistic. Don’t you think we prefer to be able to do that?
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Take your time with it. Self-care can be a lot more of a marathon than a sprint. We’ll enjoy wherever the story goes once you’re up to carrying on.
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I am starting to feel some disappointment, but we both know there’s nothing I can do about it.
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Take care of yourself first. :3 We’ll still be around when you’re all better 😀
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People who say, “Just snap out of it,” have never been in the headspace you are occupying right now. They may think they have, but they’re wrong. Just please remember that you are respected, you are valued, you are loved. And we’ll be here when you come back. <3
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The occasional new pinup drawing helps. Hang in there, keep the faith. We’ll be here.
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OCD is brutal. It spent my entire life trying to kill me before I found a doc who got me the right meds. Even then, it took about six months for the black clouds to really roll back. It’s BRUTAL, and anyone who tells you to snap out of it needs to be slapped and told to snap out of the pain. that’s not how bodies and brains work. that kind of pressure just makes it worse. You’ll get there, when you get there, and we’ll be here when you do. I assume I’ll see something on Patreon when you’re getting your feet back under you and will simply send you the best until then. No worries.
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as i sed before.. you do you.! .. only you can decide “When”..
thanks for the info… now go do what you call relaxing.!!
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The best advice I’ve heard is “just write”. Even it i’s crap. Not necessarily use it mind you, but you ought to be able to mine it for a few gems later.
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Brains are truculent that way.
Look forward to seeing you on the other side of this temporary rough patch (even if it lasts longer, it will end). Breathe easy and hang with the family in the meantime. Later!
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Got’cher back, Jack. Oh, and it’s not about snapping out of anything. We adapt, we Grow, we ask for help, & we do the Work.
Eat yer Veggies my man. We’re only human…
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Those that matter, don’t mind.
Those that mind, don’t matter.Take all the time you need, we’ll still be here.
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Do what you need to, Paul!
I can only barely begin to imagine what it must be like to be the sort of creator you are and have been. Whatever it takes to nourish that sort of ability, go for it!
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Take the time that you need to take!
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Snapping out of it isn’t always an option, I’ve been in a bad headspace myself, and have a friend who has it much worse. Take your time, I’m sure most of us are good waiting until you are good to get more comics. Those impatient ones, maybe the ones saying “snap out of it”, they can piss right off.
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Be well, friend. I have enjoyed the story that you have created. I have been in a bad space as well,(the last coulee of years has been hard) your comic is the light in my day. Warm, healing thoughts are for you. And, I firmly believe, it will be O’Kay. Consider yourself warmly hugged.
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This is another perfect time to dive into the archives again
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aww man…i got my hopes up when i saw “next>”i mean don’t get me wrong! please rest up and all that but still!…bummer.
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Depression is a bully and a thief. Keep reaching for the sun, it’s there for you and so are we. For those that keep saying “Just snap out of it”, here’s the best description of depression that I’ve ever seen. https://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2011/10/adventures-in-depression.html and https://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2013/05/depression-part-two.html
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It’s always a mistake to diagnose remotely, but your description sounds vaguely like the brain fog many have reported after having had covid.
If that is the case it will eventually clear up, but don’t get depressed. Snapping out of it is simply not an option. Time is the only cure. -
Coming from this nurse, as at least another or so have stated: You cannot take care of others until you take care of yourself. The concept of “just snap out of it” comes from those who have not had the same issues or problems that you may be going through. I remember meeting you briefly at your table at Katsucon and know you are a “together” type of person, and while I would love to have you push the comic onward, I know that when you are feeling better it will be the better comics that you want us to see. Take care of yourself and I will wait patiently for the continuation.
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The only way you could ‘let me down’ would be if you push yourself before you are ready and you are unable to continue at all (and probably a few others feel the same way)
Take your time, you will know when you are ready, and we (most of us anyway) will be here when you areIf it helps in any way, know that you have given us many years of good quality work, and personally have enjoyed it all
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Take all the time you need, my dude. Your health, mental or otherwise, is top priority and shall continue to be so ad infinitum.
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Don’t sweat it. Things happen. I, myself, suddenly found myself checked into the hospital with an infect kidney and infected blood, and only just got out yesterday after a week in. Certainly not what I was planning for just before my 65th birthday, but okay…so now despite projects for others, I need to rest for a few days, and do nothing. You do what you gotta.
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Maybe this will help. If not, than I apologize in advance for the unsolicited advice.
The subconscious brain does not parse negative statements well. We think mainly in pictures, over words.
Thus if you tell your brain, “Stop thinking about pink elephants!” Your mental picture is, naturally, a pink elephant… giving you the finger with her trunk-tips.
Instead, we need to *substitute* something else in place of what we don’t want in our head. “I’d rather think of a blue doggie!” (Wuff! tail wagging, sniffing its own bum, big panting smile at you) …and there you go; that which we shan’t bring up again is out of your head, it’s vacant spot filled with something delightful.Now, in the less abstract, “I want to stop thinking about my problems all the time!” We can invert that (and add emotion) into “I am enjoying thinking about all the things that are going well right now!”
Seriously, write them down, make a list. There will always be SOME things going well, if not work right at the moment, then maybe family, maybe social life, maybe hobbies, maybe health; your life is multi-faceted. Rarely all at once, but there will be SOME things going good at any given moment. Tack it up on the wall near at hand so you can just glance at it now and then to remind yourself what parts of life are going well, rather than dwell on the things that aren’t. -
Self Care is important. Take care of yourself and we’ll keep checking in to see when the next thing shows itself.
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Whoever is telling you to “just snap out of it” needs to go jump off a bridge and STFU.
Depression isn’t just feeling sad. It isn’t something you “just snap out” of, or “just get over”. It takes time, and self care, and very often medication and therapy. And even WITH those tools, some days the depression wins.
You’re taking care of yourself. You’re being there for your family. There is only so much of YOU to go around… and you are prioritizing the things that are most important.
While the rest of us may miss your comics, and be fairly dying to see what happens next, at the end of the day, those stories… those comics… go no where without you. And YOU have to take care of YOU before you can take care of your characters, and your world, and your fans.
Those who say “just snap out of it” have obviously never experienced depression or anxiety disorders, and while I wouldn’t wish one on my worst enemy… sometimes I wish they could get a real, tangible glimpse at what it is like. There are fantasy books and sci-fi stories that involve pocket dimensions where entire lifetimes can be experienced in the time it takes to blow your nose. There are days I wish I had access to one, so I could drop those types of folks into it and let them spend a year or two struggling with what depression and anxiety are like then bring them back into the real world to be a slightly better person for it.
It probably wouldn’t work like that… but it’s a nice fantasy. 😉
Take care.
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Take care of yourself.
I can wait – I’m only 65, I should have several more years in me *grins*
But you take care of yourself!
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Anyone who says “just snap out of it” doesn’t know a bloody thing about mental health! The brain does what the brain will do, regardless if it’s what you want or not. Take your time, do what you need to do. We’ll be here.
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As I stated before: those who say to “snap out of it” may have never been in a bad mind-space (or have thankfully forgotten it). Be true to yourself and take care of yourself, you work reflects it and I am looking forward to seeing more when you get back to where you wan to be.
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We’re all human after all – take all the time you need man. You gave us so much already and you shouldn’t do anything you’re not fully in or O.K. with.
Don’t take shortcuts where you feel you shouldn’t. And the “mindspace” is such a frickle little thing. If you push too hard you do more damage than good, so sort it out, get it out of your system, don’t feel guilty for needing time for yourself and we’ll be here when you get back :).
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If it helps, you’re not the only creative I support via Patreon who’s been feeling overwhelmed by life. Take your time to get your figures done and the rest of what you want to do will come in their good time.
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Take all the time you need , all of us readers will still be here 😀
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Hugs to you too
Take all the time you need, and thank you for having the integrity and courage to not publish material you think is below standard.
Look after yourself
More hugs -
Take care of yourself. You’re not alone and you don’t have to handle everything by yourself. Don’t be afraid to seek professional help, it can really make a difference.
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Take as much time as you need.
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I was hoping for an anniversary drawing, but, alas…and take care.
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Whoever said to you ‘Just snap out of it’ is part of the toxic attitude towards mental health that puts far too many people into breakdown territory because it’s not easy and it’s not instant to recover your mental balance, and thinking that we SHOULD be able to just shake something off sets us up to blame ourselves when we can’t, making us feel worse and worse in a feedback loop.
You’ve been taking very few update breaks for over a decade, and if you need time to think about things and take off pressure, do it. Just check back in with your fans here every so often. We care about you.
In the meantime, mindfulness meditation works for me in dealing with a stubborn and overly-critical brain, perhaps it might (not WILL) assist you? -
Anyone who tells you to “just snap out of it” is a moron. They have no idea how debilitating an invisible affliction can be. Take your time. Feel well. Return when it suits you.
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In the words of AsimovSideburns:
“The battle against mental illness cannot be won decisively. It is a long campaign against an enemy who never tires, whose forces swell to twice their size whenever you look away. Battle against a foe of such magnitude, who occupies your very mind…
Every moment you survive is a triumph against all odds. There is no more honourable a victory.” -
Take care of yourself first , and be there for your family . The rest of us can wait our butt down and not be total twatwaffles to somebody having mental health issues. Hug good energy and take care . Some of us can wait just fine
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No worries! You’re among friends!
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Give this a read – and don’t be so hard on yourself [been there, done that]
https://www.fastcompany.com/90677496/one-unlikely-culprit-to-burnout-youre-lack-of-laziness?utm_source=pocket-newtab
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You can’t do much for us unless you take care of yourself first. And even if you find it hard to write right now, your artwork is still mighty fine.
This 1000%^
Anyone who tells you to ‘Just snap out of it’ should be snapped out of existence themselves.
My thoughts exactly
i’ll third that..
Seriously. I dislike that phrase. It’s so unrealistic. Don’t you think we prefer to be able to do that?
Take your time with it. Self-care can be a lot more of a marathon than a sprint. We’ll enjoy wherever the story goes once you’re up to carrying on.
I am starting to feel some disappointment, but we both know there’s nothing I can do about it.
Take care of yourself first. :3 We’ll still be around when you’re all better 😀
People who say, “Just snap out of it,” have never been in the headspace you are occupying right now. They may think they have, but they’re wrong. Just please remember that you are respected, you are valued, you are loved. And we’ll be here when you come back. <3
The occasional new pinup drawing helps. Hang in there, keep the faith. We’ll be here.
OCD is brutal. It spent my entire life trying to kill me before I found a doc who got me the right meds. Even then, it took about six months for the black clouds to really roll back. It’s BRUTAL, and anyone who tells you to snap out of it needs to be slapped and told to snap out of the pain. that’s not how bodies and brains work. that kind of pressure just makes it worse. You’ll get there, when you get there, and we’ll be here when you do. I assume I’ll see something on Patreon when you’re getting your feet back under you and will simply send you the best until then. No worries.
as i sed before.. you do you.! .. only you can decide “When”..
thanks for the info… now go do what you call relaxing.!!
we will be here.
The best advice I’ve heard is “just write”. Even it i’s crap. Not necessarily use it mind you, but you ought to be able to mine it for a few gems later.
Brains are truculent that way.
Look forward to seeing you on the other side of this temporary rough patch (even if it lasts longer, it will end). Breathe easy and hang with the family in the meantime. Later!
Got’cher back, Jack. Oh, and it’s not about snapping out of anything. We adapt, we Grow, we ask for help, & we do the Work.
Eat yer Veggies my man. We’re only human…
Those that matter, don’t mind.
Those that mind, don’t matter.
Take all the time you need, we’ll still be here.
Do what you need to, Paul!
I can only barely begin to imagine what it must be like to be the sort of creator you are and have been. Whatever it takes to nourish that sort of ability, go for it!
Take the time that you need to take!
Snapping out of it isn’t always an option, I’ve been in a bad headspace myself, and have a friend who has it much worse. Take your time, I’m sure most of us are good waiting until you are good to get more comics. Those impatient ones, maybe the ones saying “snap out of it”, they can piss right off.
Be well, friend. I have enjoyed the story that you have created. I have been in a bad space as well,(the last coulee of years has been hard) your comic is the light in my day. Warm, healing thoughts are for you. And, I firmly believe, it will be O’Kay. Consider yourself warmly hugged.
This is another perfect time to dive into the archives again
aww man…i got my hopes up when i saw “next>”i mean don’t get me wrong! please rest up and all that but still!…bummer.
Depression is a bully and a thief. Keep reaching for the sun, it’s there for you and so are we. For those that keep saying “Just snap out of it”, here’s the best description of depression that I’ve ever seen. https://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2011/10/adventures-in-depression.html and https://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2013/05/depression-part-two.html
It’s always a mistake to diagnose remotely, but your description sounds vaguely like the brain fog many have reported after having had covid.
If that is the case it will eventually clear up, but don’t get depressed. Snapping out of it is simply not an option. Time is the only cure.
Coming from this nurse, as at least another or so have stated: You cannot take care of others until you take care of yourself. The concept of “just snap out of it” comes from those who have not had the same issues or problems that you may be going through. I remember meeting you briefly at your table at Katsucon and know you are a “together” type of person, and while I would love to have you push the comic onward, I know that when you are feeling better it will be the better comics that you want us to see. Take care of yourself and I will wait patiently for the continuation.
The only way you could ‘let me down’ would be if you push yourself before you are ready and you are unable to continue at all (and probably a few others feel the same way)
Take your time, you will know when you are ready, and we (most of us anyway) will be here when you are
If it helps in any way, know that you have given us many years of good quality work, and personally have enjoyed it all
Take all the time you need, my dude. Your health, mental or otherwise, is top priority and shall continue to be so ad infinitum.
Don’t sweat it. Things happen. I, myself, suddenly found myself checked into the hospital with an infect kidney and infected blood, and only just got out yesterday after a week in. Certainly not what I was planning for just before my 65th birthday, but okay…so now despite projects for others, I need to rest for a few days, and do nothing. You do what you gotta.
Maybe this will help. If not, than I apologize in advance for the unsolicited advice.
The subconscious brain does not parse negative statements well. We think mainly in pictures, over words.
Thus if you tell your brain, “Stop thinking about pink elephants!” Your mental picture is, naturally, a pink elephant… giving you the finger with her trunk-tips.
Instead, we need to *substitute* something else in place of what we don’t want in our head. “I’d rather think of a blue doggie!” (Wuff! tail wagging, sniffing its own bum, big panting smile at you) …and there you go; that which we shan’t bring up again is out of your head, it’s vacant spot filled with something delightful.
Now, in the less abstract, “I want to stop thinking about my problems all the time!” We can invert that (and add emotion) into “I am enjoying thinking about all the things that are going well right now!”
Seriously, write them down, make a list. There will always be SOME things going well, if not work right at the moment, then maybe family, maybe social life, maybe hobbies, maybe health; your life is multi-faceted. Rarely all at once, but there will be SOME things going good at any given moment. Tack it up on the wall near at hand so you can just glance at it now and then to remind yourself what parts of life are going well, rather than dwell on the things that aren’t.
Self Care is important. Take care of yourself and we’ll keep checking in to see when the next thing shows itself.
Whoever is telling you to “just snap out of it” needs to go jump off a bridge and STFU.
Depression isn’t just feeling sad. It isn’t something you “just snap out” of, or “just get over”. It takes time, and self care, and very often medication and therapy. And even WITH those tools, some days the depression wins.
You’re taking care of yourself. You’re being there for your family. There is only so much of YOU to go around… and you are prioritizing the things that are most important.
While the rest of us may miss your comics, and be fairly dying to see what happens next, at the end of the day, those stories… those comics… go no where without you. And YOU have to take care of YOU before you can take care of your characters, and your world, and your fans.
Those who say “just snap out of it” have obviously never experienced depression or anxiety disorders, and while I wouldn’t wish one on my worst enemy… sometimes I wish they could get a real, tangible glimpse at what it is like. There are fantasy books and sci-fi stories that involve pocket dimensions where entire lifetimes can be experienced in the time it takes to blow your nose. There are days I wish I had access to one, so I could drop those types of folks into it and let them spend a year or two struggling with what depression and anxiety are like then bring them back into the real world to be a slightly better person for it.
It probably wouldn’t work like that… but it’s a nice fantasy. 😉
Take care.
Take care of yourself.
I can wait – I’m only 65, I should have several more years in me *grins*
But you take care of yourself!
Anyone who says “just snap out of it” doesn’t know a bloody thing about mental health! The brain does what the brain will do, regardless if it’s what you want or not. Take your time, do what you need to do. We’ll be here.
As I stated before: those who say to “snap out of it” may have never been in a bad mind-space (or have thankfully forgotten it). Be true to yourself and take care of yourself, you work reflects it and I am looking forward to seeing more when you get back to where you wan to be.
We’re all human after all – take all the time you need man. You gave us so much already and you shouldn’t do anything you’re not fully in or O.K. with.
Don’t take shortcuts where you feel you shouldn’t. And the “mindspace” is such a frickle little thing. If you push too hard you do more damage than good, so sort it out, get it out of your system, don’t feel guilty for needing time for yourself and we’ll be here when you get back :).
If it helps, you’re not the only creative I support via Patreon who’s been feeling overwhelmed by life. Take your time to get your figures done and the rest of what you want to do will come in their good time.
Take all the time you need , all of us readers will still be here 😀
Hugs to you too
Take all the time you need, and thank you for having the integrity and courage to not publish material you think is below standard.
Look after yourself
More hugs
Take care of yourself. You’re not alone and you don’t have to handle everything by yourself. Don’t be afraid to seek professional help, it can really make a difference.
Take as much time as you need.
I was hoping for an anniversary drawing, but, alas…and take care.
Whoever said to you ‘Just snap out of it’ is part of the toxic attitude towards mental health that puts far too many people into breakdown territory because it’s not easy and it’s not instant to recover your mental balance, and thinking that we SHOULD be able to just shake something off sets us up to blame ourselves when we can’t, making us feel worse and worse in a feedback loop.
You’ve been taking very few update breaks for over a decade, and if you need time to think about things and take off pressure, do it. Just check back in with your fans here every so often. We care about you.
In the meantime, mindfulness meditation works for me in dealing with a stubborn and overly-critical brain, perhaps it might (not WILL) assist you?
Anyone who tells you to “just snap out of it” is a moron. They have no idea how debilitating an invisible affliction can be. Take your time. Feel well. Return when it suits you.
In the words of AsimovSideburns:
“The battle against mental illness cannot be won decisively. It is a long campaign against an enemy who never tires, whose forces swell to twice their size whenever you look away. Battle against a foe of such magnitude, who occupies your very mind…
Every moment you survive is a triumph against all odds. There is no more honourable a victory.”
Take care of yourself first , and be there for your family . The rest of us can wait our butt down and not be total twatwaffles to somebody having mental health issues. Hug good energy and take care . Some of us can wait just fine
No worries! You’re among friends!
Give this a read – and don’t be so hard on yourself [been there, done that]
https://www.fastcompany.com/90677496/one-unlikely-culprit-to-burnout-youre-lack-of-laziness?utm_source=pocket-newtab