She was a Truth-Sayer. It’s an integral part of a Mom’s Prime Directive. Agreed though EeeeeeYOWCH! that hit uncomfortably close to home, for me, and I think most Males, [and I don’t have the looks.]
my mother told me a very very long time ago. that the only thing she could give me was honesty. We where not rich so no money was coming my way. We didn’t have any important connections of any kind. So I was on my own there. All she could do was teach me right from wrong. never judge people by race or looks. And also always tell me the truth even if it made me feel like shit. I am the same way as her now.) The praise was there too. But my mother took me from asshole little boy to decent human being. (who can be an asshole if I have to be.) but she never ever hide things from me. growing up I saw all the ugly and beauty the world had to offer. If I didn’t understand something she tell me the truth about it. People protect their kids way too much. So later when they see how things really are. They are totally unprepared for it. I know it is 100% natural to want to keep your kids safe. Keep them from seeing the bad side of things. but in the end you are not doing them any favors. the world is what it is. And I’m not saying you should let your 2 year old what documentary’s on what the Nazis did to jewish people. But as they grow and can understand things. you shouldn’t hide stuff they can handle from them. Esp. if you are right there to explain things and help them handle it. my mother stepped up as a parent in way, that I can never thank her for. she literly kicked my ass when I needed it. and praised me and made me feel like best kid ever when I deserved it. I would not be today who I am with out her.
As I’ve mentioned before, Hiroshi seems like a particular type of hero from Celtic mythology.
His human side is Nippon, but the fae are heavily tied to Celtic lore. Might have to look into his time as a butterfly. It could have chthonic implications (seems like it would).
At least he has enough intelligence to warn people of his shortcomings instead of blundering through life wondering why people act and react the way they do.
Hiroshi doesn’t sound like an airhead as much as someone who has a moderate case of attention deficit disorder, inattentive type. It’s common for people with inattentive ADD to lose track of time. They overload their calendars with activities or to-do lists, and then either forget most of it (unless they have some device programmed to remind them) and/or beat themselves up for not getting everything done. Understanding how much time they *really* need to get something done, and setting reminders for everything, even repetitive activities like taking out the trash, makes a world of positive difference in their lives.
(No, don’t ask me how I know about this. ADD doesn’t just run in my family; it practically gallops.)
I have suspected, for some years now, that I have what used to be known as ADD (since before it, and hyperactivity, were deemed to be variations of the same thing [ADHD] by the people responsible for DSM [DSM‹4›]).
Unfortunately, I have not been able to get the necessary analisis (and diagnosis) to tell me if I’m correct.
My Wife told our kids, “We will be honest with you. In return, we want you to be honest with us. If you screw up, and tell us the truth about it, we will do our best to help you fix it. If you lie to us, we can’t protect you.” Our kids got some blunt truths dropped on them once in a while, but they knew where we stood, and never tried to sneak something past us.
A parents job is not to pamper their child away from all the hurts the world will unmistakably throw at them as soon as mommy isn’t there to shield them any longer. A parent’s job is to prepare their child to live and thrive in the world of adults.
She’s told him what his strengths are, where his weaknesses are, and what to look for in a life partner who can compensate for those weaknesses. I think she’s doing pretty well by him.
Well, he obviously did not inherit kindness from his mother… Sheesh!
Oww. I think his mother may earn the award for the poorest use of the word “only” during this century.
What a thing to tell your kid.
She was a Truth-Sayer. It’s an integral part of a Mom’s Prime Directive. Agreed though EeeeeeYOWCH! that hit uncomfortably close to home, for me, and I think most Males, [and I don’t have the looks.]
my mother told me a very very long time ago. that the only thing she could give me was honesty. We where not rich so no money was coming my way. We didn’t have any important connections of any kind. So I was on my own there. All she could do was teach me right from wrong. never judge people by race or looks. And also always tell me the truth even if it made me feel like shit. I am the same way as her now.) The praise was there too. But my mother took me from asshole little boy to decent human being. (who can be an asshole if I have to be.) but she never ever hide things from me. growing up I saw all the ugly and beauty the world had to offer. If I didn’t understand something she tell me the truth about it. People protect their kids way too much. So later when they see how things really are. They are totally unprepared for it. I know it is 100% natural to want to keep your kids safe. Keep them from seeing the bad side of things. but in the end you are not doing them any favors. the world is what it is. And I’m not saying you should let your 2 year old what documentary’s on what the Nazis did to jewish people. But as they grow and can understand things. you shouldn’t hide stuff they can handle from them. Esp. if you are right there to explain things and help them handle it. my mother stepped up as a parent in way, that I can never thank her for. she literly kicked my ass when I needed it. and praised me and made me feel like best kid ever when I deserved it. I would not be today who I am with out her.
Fae can be blunt. At least, mine is.. he’s also not nice.
The apple never falls far from the horse. Sounds like a bimbo family to me.
damn and i thought MY mom was brutal
(Psst: “I’m Sure” = “I assure”?)
Yeah. Looks like a spell-checker mistake.
Never trust spell check.
And it’s already corrected! Nice going.
What are the chances he’ll remember how awful he feels right now, and what caused it?
That’s the kind of reaction that actually sticks with people the best (usually).
is this the beginning of a Hiroshi / Shawna connection? (To the detriment of Castela — again?)
Sure looks like it.
Or, an Archie-Betty-Veronica type triangle.
Beginning? I dunno, I think this is more the nail in the coffin.
Good to know this site is still live.
He’s not giving up on this, he’s said that already – he’s just trying his hand at the latest iteration of a webcomics aggregator.
Damn. His mum sounds like mine. Poor kid.
As I’ve mentioned before, Hiroshi seems like a particular type of hero from Celtic mythology.
His human side is Nippon, but the fae are heavily tied to Celtic lore. Might have to look into his time as a butterfly. It could have chthonic implications (seems like it would).
At least he has enough intelligence to warn people of his shortcomings instead of blundering through life wondering why people act and react the way they do.
Hiroshi doesn’t sound like an airhead as much as someone who has a moderate case of attention deficit disorder, inattentive type. It’s common for people with inattentive ADD to lose track of time. They overload their calendars with activities or to-do lists, and then either forget most of it (unless they have some device programmed to remind them) and/or beat themselves up for not getting everything done. Understanding how much time they *really* need to get something done, and setting reminders for everything, even repetitive activities like taking out the trash, makes a world of positive difference in their lives.
(No, don’t ask me how I know about this. ADD doesn’t just run in my family; it practically gallops.)
Sounds like me.
I have suspected, for some years now, that I have what used to be known as ADD (since before it, and hyperactivity, were deemed to be variations of the same thing [ADHD] by the people responsible for DSM [DSM‹4›]).
Unfortunately, I have not been able to get the necessary analisis (and diagnosis) to tell me if I’m correct.
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My Wife told our kids, “We will be honest with you. In return, we want you to be honest with us. If you screw up, and tell us the truth about it, we will do our best to help you fix it. If you lie to us, we can’t protect you.” Our kids got some blunt truths dropped on them once in a while, but they knew where we stood, and never tried to sneak something past us.
Honesty may be the best policy… But its sure NOT a comfortable one!
A parents job is not to pamper their child away from all the hurts the world will unmistakably throw at them as soon as mommy isn’t there to shield them any longer. A parent’s job is to prepare their child to live and thrive in the world of adults.
She’s told him what his strengths are, where his weaknesses are, and what to look for in a life partner who can compensate for those weaknesses. I think she’s doing pretty well by him.