Ok, Cass, repeat after me: “I like exchanging presents, but I don’t want you to feel it’s just from commercial brainwashing or to make you feel an obligation. We could wait for a more personal occasion if you’d prefer. How do you feel about it?”
The Witness way is a good way: they don’t ‘celebrate’ birthdays or other ‘holidays’, if they see something they feel someone would like, they get it and give it straight away, no waiting for a ‘special occasion’ and then run around looking for ‘the perfect gift’, the ‘perfect gift’ is the one giving with love and that makes any occasion a ‘special’ occasion
Doesn’t mean they don’t still give gifts on birthdays or holidays, they just don’t celebrate those days
not from what my gf and SO have said. (both are ex jws) they do not even acknowledge birthdays or holidays. She grew up never knowing a Christmas (it was Worldly there fore not allowed) and being told she didn’t have a birthday because that was honoring herself above god. She didn’t even get to see FIREWORDS till she was 40 years old. ( one of our first dates was to a fireworks display) as for presents at special occasions, there were no special occasions because those were Worldly she was SHUNNED because she wanted to get an education (her mother said it was a waste of time because it was worldly… her mother is no longer allowed to talk to me because I made her cry poking holes in her theophasy
Sounds like your GF and SO were in the wrong sort of Witness group, or maybe it was just her mother was a raving nutbar (no offense meant to nutbars, they can be quite delicious, even a Snickers)
Have heard similar reports about some crazy mothers locally, ones who even ban certain music (eldest sister actually lost some music simply because the person helping her move house was a nutter)
Mum has been a Witness for, hmm, 40 some years? And she has never had a problem with birthdays or Christmas, she just doesn’t celebrate them (she still gives presents to family, and goes around to their place for a Christmas meal)
Like said, she doesn’t give gifts on ‘special occasions’, giving gifts is a special occasion (don’t need to have to have a reason to give gifts, other than believing the recipient will like it)
The intent means more than the gift. And nothing says the gift has to be bought. Considering her artistic skills with her rock carving, Pickle could MAKE something for Shawna. Case in point: I gave a friend of mine a pen and ink drawing for a present for her birthday one year and she LOVED IT. She said it meant more to her because of the thought and work I’d put into it.
I recall that a few years ago, shortly before Atsali was due to head off to college, Castela used her patented Blackthorn Sarcastic Wisdom powers to goad Atsali into talking directly with Nadette about the future of their relationship.
It appears that the shoe is now in the other foot for Castela… and she’s forgotten how to tie the laces.
No wonder Tumbleweed can’t figure it out, BOOBIES!!!
I know I’d bluescreen and restart after a hug like that…
Did Kath tip Shawna off?
Well, at least you got boob scrunchies out of it… shucks, you could have snuck in a motorboat or two… LOL
I like the lil dragon of guile in the background
Not a dragon. That’s a gryphon. A gryphon segreant, to be precise.
Well, Pickle, ask a vague non question, get a vague non answer.
Ok, Cass, repeat after me: “I like exchanging presents, but I don’t want you to feel it’s just from commercial brainwashing or to make you feel an obligation. We could wait for a more personal occasion if you’d prefer. How do you feel about it?”
She’s telling you to buy her a gift, Cas. I’m not sure she could be more clear about it without saying it outright.
Translation:
Cass: Should we go big for Valentine’s Day?
Shawna: I think Christmas is a great time for expressing one’s love for others in the form of gifts.
Just. TALK. To. Her!!
The Witness way is a good way: they don’t ‘celebrate’ birthdays or other ‘holidays’, if they see something they feel someone would like, they get it and give it straight away, no waiting for a ‘special occasion’ and then run around looking for ‘the perfect gift’, the ‘perfect gift’ is the one giving with love and that makes any occasion a ‘special’ occasion
Doesn’t mean they don’t still give gifts on birthdays or holidays, they just don’t celebrate those days
not from what my gf and SO have said. (both are ex jws) they do not even acknowledge birthdays or holidays. She grew up never knowing a Christmas (it was Worldly there fore not allowed) and being told she didn’t have a birthday because that was honoring herself above god. She didn’t even get to see FIREWORDS till she was 40 years old. ( one of our first dates was to a fireworks display) as for presents at special occasions, there were no special occasions because those were Worldly she was SHUNNED because she wanted to get an education (her mother said it was a waste of time because it was worldly… her mother is no longer allowed to talk to me because I made her cry poking holes in her theophasy
Sounds like your GF and SO were in the wrong sort of Witness group, or maybe it was just her mother was a raving nutbar (no offense meant to nutbars, they can be quite delicious, even a Snickers)
Have heard similar reports about some crazy mothers locally, ones who even ban certain music (eldest sister actually lost some music simply because the person helping her move house was a nutter)
Mum has been a Witness for, hmm, 40 some years? And she has never had a problem with birthdays or Christmas, she just doesn’t celebrate them (she still gives presents to family, and goes around to their place for a Christmas meal)
Like said, she doesn’t give gifts on ‘special occasions’, giving gifts is a special occasion (don’t need to have to have a reason to give gifts, other than believing the recipient will like it)
The intent means more than the gift. And nothing says the gift has to be bought. Considering her artistic skills with her rock carving, Pickle could MAKE something for Shawna. Case in point: I gave a friend of mine a pen and ink drawing for a present for her birthday one year and she LOVED IT. She said it meant more to her because of the thought and work I’d put into it.
In complete Agrecian with you
Stop trying to overthink things, Stinkweed. Just enjoy the massive boobies snuggle.
Shawna already said what needs to happen: “In the end, that’s for each couple to decide.” Cass, just talk to her!
If this isn’t a basis for a sitcom…NOTHING will ever be!!!
I recall that a few years ago, shortly before Atsali was due to head off to college, Castela used her patented Blackthorn Sarcastic Wisdom powers to goad Atsali into talking directly with Nadette about the future of their relationship.
It appears that the shoe is now in the other foot for Castela… and she’s forgotten how to tie the laces.
Or even put on the shoes . . .
“… Shoe lokers”!?
Definitely seems like there’s some Japanese influence in th way the school is designed 🤨