That’s true to an extent. But there are also cruel people who misrepresent themselves, and basically good and smart people who make mistakes. It’s impossible to always make good choices.
Step one: reevaluate your search parameters.
Step two: give the relationship some time! Too often things just move too fast. Used to be you would take the time to get to know someone (or several!) without getting too attached. Now it’s Hey, we’ve had a couple good dates, lets get married!
I’m a bit between both sides of the issue here. On one hand, acting like Jin and not trusting anybody will make you miserable in the long run. Being too trusting though might get you burned. Somewhere between the two extremes is best.
There are people (men *and* women, let’s be honest) out there who will say anything to get what they are after. The trick is watching them and seeing if their actions match their words, not letting your “vision” get clouded in that respect.
I say this as a person who has both “fallen for it” and “seen the truth”, in various ways, in different relationships.
I didn’t say it was *easy*, I just said that was the trick. Seems more often than not it’s a hindsight kinda deal, which stinks but ah well.
That is so romantic and corny and amazing.
I’m with Jin. Screw this strip. Because this is how you get screwed over.
ditto
last guy i was with
he was all ‘why would i ever not want a woman who adores me and i adore’
two weeks later he dumps me
screw em!
Comes down to choices ladies- If you make bad choices, then you have bad relations. If you have nothing but bad choices…try something else.
That’s true to an extent. But there are also cruel people who misrepresent themselves, and basically good and smart people who make mistakes. It’s impossible to always make good choices.
Step one: reevaluate your search parameters.
Step two: give the relationship some time! Too often things just move too fast. Used to be you would take the time to get to know someone (or several!) without getting too attached. Now it’s Hey, we’ve had a couple good dates, lets get married!
I’m a bit between both sides of the issue here. On one hand, acting like Jin and not trusting anybody will make you miserable in the long run. Being too trusting though might get you burned. Somewhere between the two extremes is best.
There are people (men *and* women, let’s be honest) out there who will say anything to get what they are after. The trick is watching them and seeing if their actions match their words, not letting your “vision” get clouded in that respect.
I say this as a person who has both “fallen for it” and “seen the truth”, in various ways, in different relationships.
I didn’t say it was *easy*, I just said that was the trick.
Seems more often than not it’s a hindsight kinda deal, which stinks but ah well.
Paula: don’t tar all of us guys with the same brush, please. Contrary to popular belief, there are some good men left out there.